"Girls, kalian harus bisa aktifkan feminine energy kalian kalau pengen dapat cowok dengan masculine energy."
"Jangan terlalu mandiri biar bisa dapet cowok dengan masculine energy"
"Go find a rich man and become pilates trophy wife."
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Akhir-akhir ini sering banget muncul di fyp tiktok, di timeline twitter juga, about how feminine energy could change you. Mungkin statement-statement di atas agak terlalu harsh, but the thing is; why is it always about man?
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I was born in 1995, that makes me one of the millennials. Seinget saya, dulu tuh perempuan berlomba jadi a girlboss, they can do whatever they want to do. Dulu, saya kalo liat perempuan sekolah lagi, punya karir oke, dandan cantik, ugh keren sekali. I want to be her, with that energy. Tapi sepertinya sekarang sudah agak bergeser, ya..
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"Jangan terlalu mandiri, biar bisa dapet cowok dengan masculine energy."
"Coba belajar pakai feminine energy deh, biar gampang dideketin cowok.."
Again, why is it always about male attention?
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Here, I remind you. A man is basically a human being. They can have their own preference, they have their feeling, they have their own mindset. Kalau memang belum ada yang datang, ya mungkin memang belum waktunya saja.
And it's okay if you gotta improve yourself to be that "feminine energy". It's nice to be a nice person. It's good to be a calmer person. The thing is, be a better version of you, for you. For the future you. Not for a man. Not for anyone else. For you.
